This past weekend I was sitting in my living room watching a football game that I wasn’t interested in because there wasn’t a baseball game on, a marathon (or any foot race) to watch, or a better football game to choose from. While sitting there, a commercial came on that grabbed my attention and elevated my pulse far more than the boring football game. The commercial was in form of a short video by the NCAA (National Collegiate Athletic Association). The advertisement contains an agenda that transcends collegiate sports. Near the end of the advertisement, two female athletes make the following statement, “Genders don’t play sports, athletes do.” As the commercial ends, a statement appears on the screen: Creating equal opportunities for college athletes.
What Is Gender?
The gender of a person is part of the fabric of the individual’s identity. Male and female are the two possible genders as God designed His creation in the beginning (Gen. 1:27) when He created Adam and Eve as the progenitors of the human race. In short, there are no other options available. However, in recent months our progressive culture has sought to craft new boundaries, new options, even no options at all in the gender debate.
Today, it’s possible to have a man with all of the signs and indications of masculinity using the restroom designated for women because he “self identifies” as a woman. This has caused great tension in the public gender debate and in the wake of the landmark decision of the Supreme Court of the United States to legalize homosexual marriage in in all fifty states.
According to the Concise Oxford Dictionary, the word gender as it pertains to humans is “the state of being male or female (chiefly in cultural or social contexts).”  Although much change has occurred in recent years on this very subject and the boundaries are continually being pushed, to exist as a human being involves being either male or female. This is visibly evident in the physical traits of a person, including the body parts of each individual person.
Why the “Gender Bender” Agenda is Harmful
You might have heard the rumbling story of Nattaphon “Ice” Wangyot who made history at Alaska’s state track meet, becoming the first transgender student-athlete to compete individually for a high school state championship back in the 2016 track season. Wangyot, a Thai native who was born male and identifies as female, qualified and competed in the Class 3A girls’ sprints at the state meet, capturing third place in the 200-meter dash (27.3) and fifth in the 100 (13.36). 
Is Wangyot really that good? When you examine his times, if he had been forced to run against the male students in the men’s race, he wouldn’t have made the finals in the 100-meter. In fact, he wouldn’t have made it to the state meet. The slowest runner in the 100-meter race was Jacob Rogers from Holy Rosary Academy who ran a 12.47. His time was the 17th fastest in the preliminary races, and he didn’t make the finals. Rogers’ time is much faster than Wangyot, but he was able to capture the 5th fastest time in the women’s state meet because he self identifies as a female.
In the end, the gender bender policy of the NCAA is killing competition in women’s sports. Male athletes who would otherwise not rise to the top are able to do so by competing in women’s events. This is not only true in high school but in collegiate events as well. This will harm true competition for women athletes. In a world that demands equality for women, this gender bender identity policy by the NCAA will do just the opposite. The very organization that prides itself in “Creating equal opportunities for college athletes” is pushing an agenda that refuses reat women as women.
Why Have Boundaries in Sports?
If you’ve ever played a sport, or watched one on television, you know about boundaries. In football, there are sidelines that border the field. If a wide receiver catches a pass from the quarterback outside of those boundaries, the pass is considered incomplete. In golf, if your ball lands in the water hazard, you will be penalized for it. In basketball, the playing surface has boundaries around the court in order to contain the playing area within those specified boundaries. If a play is made beyond those lines, it results in a turnover in possession. If football field sidelines, water hazards, and basketball court boundaries are treated as absolutes, why should gender be treated with such relativism by the NCAA?
As the debate continues to grow in our culture, are we prepared for the man who self identifies as a dog to be allowed to compete in The National Dog Show? We’re living in strange times where common sense, logic, and absolutes are completely ignored and rejected. The problem with that type of world is that it doesn’t exist. The very minute that we treat the laws of nature with a relativistic attitude, we will certainly do bodily harm to ourselves and people around us. The real world is full of absolutes, and that includes the subject of gender. If gender is merely a social construct, why can’t we treat boundaries in athletics in the same manner? Do rules and boundaries really mean anything?
The NCAA may not see it this way, but they have entered the perverse revolt against God. We are living in a sexual and moral revolution that is twisting and spiraling out of control into the abyss of human depravity. The NCAA can’t remain socially consistent in their positions. While running advertisements on national television stating, “Genders don’t play sports, athletes do”—the very website of the NCAA makes a clear distinction between men’s and women’s sports. The inconsistency is striking.
The NCAA will never be able to bypass God in the gender conversation. Just as the NCAA is accustomed to reading rule books and operating by the set boundaries of various sporting events, it would do them well to read the boundaries instituted and crafted by God regarding human gender and sexuality. When pronouns are replaced with abstract neuter forms to bypass masculinity and femininity, God doesn’t lose—we do. We all do. Our children do. So will the world of athletics. You can make a word neuter, but you can’t make an athlete neuter. An athlete will always be male or female. Athletes are human. John Piper provides helpful wisdom on this subject in an article titled, “Male and Female, Created in God’s Image” found at CBMW.org. He writes:
The tendency today is to stress the equality of men and women by minimizing the unique significance of our maleness or femaleness. But this depreciation of male and female personhood is a great loss. It is taking a tremendous toll on generations of young men and women who do not know what it means to be a man or a woman. Confusion over the meaning of sexual personhood today is epidemic. The consequence of this confusion is not a free and happy harmony among gender-free persons relating on the basis of abstract competencies. The consequence rather is more divorce, more homosexuality, more sexual abuse, more promiscuity, more social awkwardness, and more emotional distress and suicide that come with the loss of God-given identity. 
Catherine Soanes and Angus Stevenson, eds., Concise Oxford English Dictionary (Oxford: Oxford University Press, 2004).
Beth Moore is an extremely popular Bible teacher, author, and founder of Living Proof Ministries, Inc. which began in 1994 with the purpose of teaching women through Bible studies and resources. Many thousands of women (and men) study the Bible in groups who use resources from LPM and watch videos of Beth Moore’s teaching. With wide success in the publishing world, she is a frequent keynote speaker at large conferences including Passion. As a former member of the First Baptist Church of Houston, Texas (now a member of Bayou City Fellowship), Beth Moore has been a Southern Baptist for years and finds great success in publishing her material through B&H Publishing Group and distributing it through LifeWay – a popular bookstore closely associated with the Southern Baptist Convention.
For many years, Beth Moore’s teaching has raised eyebrows among pastors and leaders in conservative circles. Although concerns have been raised through the years, Beth Moore continues to be welcomed into the study groups within local churches where women read her books, study guides, and watch her videos with limited, if any, oversight from the pastoral staff. Below I’ve documented three main reasons why pastors should fire Beth Moore from the women’s ministry within their local church.
Beth Moore Clearly Violates Biblical Boundaries
In Paul’s letter to Timothy, he writes, “I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet” (1 Tim. 2:12). Paul forbids women from teaching and having authority over men. Therefore, the pattern of the early church was established by Christ who chose twelve men to be His inner circle and then entrusted the early church to their oversight. From that point forward (post Acts 6), God raised up a plurality of men to serve as deacons who would serve alongside the plurality of men who would serve as elders.
In short, we don’t see God calling, equipping, and endorsing women to teach the Bible in the context of the church (or beyond in places such as conferences). This position rooted in creation and upheld by a distinctive position known as complementarianism is not only consistent with Scripture, but in tandem with the early church’s design. Beth Moore violates this early church pattern and most importantly – the text of Scripture found in 1 Timothy 2:12. As she appears on the platform with an open Bible, she preaches the Word to thousands of men who are in attendance at the Passion conference and other venues where she’s invited to speak. Not only is this her personal pattern of ministry, but she likewise condones other women who preach to men as she was in attendance at Joel Osteen’s church to hear her friend Christine Caine when she preached at Lakewood.
A double dose of church this weekend! Jones & I are going tonight to Lakewood to worship & to hear @ChristineCaine & be w/her darling girls.
The point of the Bible is clear, women are not permitted to have authority over men, and how is it possible to teach the Bible without authority? Paul forbids women from occupying the office of elder, but it must likewise be noted that he forbids women from the functionality of preaching and teaching the Bible to men – even if they don’t hold the office of elder (1 Tim. 2:12). Beth Moore has demonstrated a heart of rebellion in this important area where she has violated God’s original intent in women’s role in the church, and therefore, should not be accepted into the church as an acceptable women’s ministry (or any Bible teaching ministry). The pattern of ministry Beth Moore has developed will continue to manifest itself in local churches so long as local churches continue to incorporate her resources in their ministries.
Beth Moore Employs Faulty Biblical Hermeneutics
The fancy word hermeneutics, is a reference to the science of biblical interpretation. Anyone who teaches the Bible understands that you don’t merely approach the Bible with a flippant and disorganized manner and expect organized presentation and application. Beth Moore does not approach the Bible with a disorganized methodology, but she does approach the Bible with a deficient hermeneutic – one that should be rejected.
The most appropriate method of biblical interpretation is known as the literal, grammatical, historical method of interpretation. This method seeks to uncover the original author’s intent from a literal and historical lens. This method upholds the single meaning of the text of Scripture and does so with a careful analysis upon the terms and grammar used in the text.
Beth Moore, often very animated and passionate in her delivery of her Bible teaching employs a method of biblical interpretation known as allegorical interpretation. This is a method of spiritualizing the text and making it say something other than what the original author intended. If you’ve ever heard a sermon preached from the text of David and Goliath where the preacher pointed out that David is Jesus and Goliath is Satan – you’ve heard allegorical interpretation in action. This is perhaps the main interpretative method used by Beth Moore.
Beth Moore goes beyond allegorical interpretation at times as she approaches the Bible through a mystical method of Bible reading known as Lectio Divina. This is an old heretical form of biblical interpretation taken from Roman Catholic mystics and often closely connected to contemplative prayer. This practice is often viewed as a spiritual method of approaching the Bible that involves emptying your brain and preparing to hear God speak. David Helm, in his book, Expositional Preaching, writes:
Lectio Divina advocates a method that is spiritual as opposed to systematically studious. It substitutes intuition for investigation. It prefers mood and emotion to methodical and reasoned inquiry. It equates your spirit to the Holy Spirit.” 
Although once a Roman Catholic method of reading and interpreting the Bible, Lectio Divina is now becoming popular in the mainstream evangelical community. This method sidesteps the careful and historical method of biblical interpretation as it encourages people to open their minds and listen for the voice of God. We should not be teaching people to empty their minds or open their minds while they listen for the voice of God. God has spoken clearly and we can see what God has said as we read the Bible.
Beth Moore Is an Ecumenical Charismatic
In recent years, Beth Moore has been beating the drum of ecumenism with fervor. In many recordings of her teachings, you can hear her categorize many liberal and conservative denominations along with Roman Catholics into the same group as if there are no distinctions or divisions. If this isn’t enough to cause great concern, in more recent days Beth Moore has been crossing over the line into the troubled waters of the charismatic circles and aligning herself with people such as Joyce Meyer. It’s one thing to refer to Joyce Meyer as a mentor and to embrace Roman Catholics as another denomination within evangelicalism, but why should Beth Moore be classified as a charismatic? Beyond the obvious connection that Beth Moore has with Joyce Meyer, she also leads conferences with other charismatics and engages in teaching strange doctrines. Beth Moore participated in a Women of Faith conference held at Lakewood Church in Houston (see Roma Downey promote it on YouTube) where she taught sloppy allegorical lessons and engaged in a strange “commissioning” event at the close of the conference.
Beth Moore aligns herself with Joel Osteen and Joyce Meyer.
Beth Moore engages in contemplative spirituality.
Beth Moore is using charismatic language such as in a recent tweet about “binding prayers.”
Beth Moore advocates receiving direct messages from God:
Beth Moore relates the story of a woman who approached her during a conference with a message from God:
With obvious anointing, she told the story we’re about to study, then she said: “I don’t know you Beth. I have no idea why God sent me with such a message to give you, but He told me clearly to say these words to you: ‘Tell her that her many sins have been forgiven—for she loved much.’” 
Notice that Beth Moore claimed the woman had an “obvious anointing” from God. To attach God’s name to a special message that doesn’t originate between Genesis and Revelation is to open yourself up to extrabiblical revelation and to deny the sufficiency of Scripture.
Discernment is needed today in the church like never before. It should also be noted that God has called pastors to exercise oversight over women’s ministries within the church. To allow women to go through church sponsored Beth Moore studies and gather for simulcast studies is to open the doors of the church to unbiblical and dangerous teaching. Pastors, guard the doors and educate the people to exercise biblical discernment.
David Helm, Expositional Preaching, (Wheaton: Crossway, 2014), Kindle Edition, 355 of 1576.
Beth Moore, Jesus the One and Only, (Nashville: B&H Publishing Group, 2013), 91.
Do you remember what it was like when you were in high school? For some of us, those days are becoming more and more blurry as time progresses. However, you do recall the lack of maturity you possessed along with the foolish amount of importance we all placed upon certain things – size of arms, height, speed, length of chin, width of nostrils, eye color, hairstyles, and more. It seems foolish now to think about what we used as entrance into our circle of acceptance. For some of us, it was the length of sideburns or tight rolled jeans, but for far too many today it’s sex! One popular means of acceptance into certain social circles is the willingness to engage in premarital sex. This is not a new trend. Sex has been used to “feel” accepted for years, but with the more liberal television and entertainment outlets, what was once hidden, or merely alluded to, is now openly shoved in your face.
Unless you have been spending a lot of time on the moon, it’s no secret that the modern cultural trends of American television entertainment has been on attack mode for years toward biblical marriage and abstinence. The public schools have aided in this effort through free condom distribution and unwise sex education programs. This has led to a massive amount of sexual promiscuity. The drum continues to beat in that direction through our entertainment outlets. It’s apparently not cool nor culturally acceptable to wait until you are married to engage in sexual activity. Just a passing glance at the popularity of The Bachelor will give you an idea of what people really think about marriage, sexual promiscuity, and abstinence. The thought of modesty is about as ancient as the old typewriter is to an iPad in our culture. Houston, we have a problem!
Just this week (February 4th), Jimmy Fallon and The Tonight Show posted a video that portrayed the reunion of the cast of Saved by the Bell – a popular teen sitcom from 1989-1993. What was more troubling than 40 somethings playing high school characters in this reunion scene was perhaps one line by “Zack” – “I got Kelly Kapowski pregnant.” It wasn’t “Oh no, I’ve made the biggest mistake of my life, I got Kelly Kapowski pregnant,” but rather, “Guess what everybody, I’m the real deal…I’m the big man on campus, I got Kelly Kapowski pregnant.” Just since it was released yesterday, it has already had more than 6 million views on Youtube.com. In what seems to be a big sweeping success on social media, the whole idea of sleeping with your high school girlfriend appears to be the normal acceptable practice of today’s culture, not to mention the wink at homosexuality that slid its way into the scene as well.
Think about your entertainment outlets. What television programs are the normal diet of your family? What do your children perceive as acceptable based on what you approve to be viewed in your living room? What do your children see you liking and sharing online? What are you communicating to your struggling teenage son who is considering losing his virginity this weekend after he takes his girlfriend to an early movie? Wisdom and prudence are essential in making decisions about entertainment outlets, but we have no room for laziness as we teach our children the truth about life. We must not lose sight of the responsibility we have as parents to raise our children under the nurture and admonition of the Lord (Deuteronomy 6).
According to the Center for Disease Control (CDC) – “Teen Pregnancy in the United States. In 2012, a total of 305,388 babies were born to women aged 15–19 years, for a live birth rateof 29.4 per 1,000 women in this age group. This is a record low for U.S. teens in this age group, and a drop of 6% from 2011.” God has a better plan for sex and it’s always within the confounds of marriage. When we tamper with God’s plan for sex, the results will be harmful for the entire society. God has rightly declared, “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous” (Hebrews 13:4). Sexually immoral is the Greek word – πόρνος – one who practices sexual immorality – a fornicator. This involves a male prostitute, homosexuality, beastality, and various other sinful deviations.Within our culture, and our culture is not alone in this, we see an improper reflection of marriage. Marriage is intended to do something. It’s intended to communicate a message. At the foundational level – marriage is intended to show a picture of Christ and His bride – the Church. It exists to bring God glory. When we alter marriage – we alter God’s intended plan. R. Kent Hughes writes, “Anyone who imagines that unrepentant adultery and sexual immorality will go unpunished is in La-la Land.”This type of outlook toward sexual sin lowers the value of women and cheapens the sanctity of marriage in our culture.
The Bible teaches us in Ecclesiastes 9:9, “Enjoy life with the wife whom you love.” In other places we see the Bible make statements such as, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord” (Proverbs 18:22). Our children need to hear more than “be good” and “do better” messages. They need far more than that from the pulpit of their local church and from the instruction they receive in their living room. Moralism will not change the heart. Our children need to hear messages that point them to Jesus. As they bow their knee to Jesus Christ as Lord, their outlook on marriage, sex, and life as a whole will be changed.
Before you celebrate the pregnant truth of Kelly Kapowski – think about it. Your son is watching you and learning from what you think is acceptable. Point your son to Jesus Christ – not Zack Morris!
1. R. Kent Hughes, Hebrews: An Anchor for the Soul, vol. 2, Preaching the Word (Wheaton, IL: Crossway Books, 1993), 219.
I find myself amazed that the most successful shows on television are often filled with a shallow and disrespectful view of women. Television is deceiving us. Facebook is deceiving us. The selfie culture is deceiving us. The celebrity culture is deceiving us. Are we really that easily deceived?
In a day when top reality shows include Keeping Up with the Kardashians, Jersey Shore, The Bachelor, and The Bachelorette, we know we have a big problem. The problem with shows such as The Bachelor is in how they define women. Often they are portrayed merely as items on the shelf for men to look at, examine, hold, and try out. If at any point he isn’t happy with the item, he can simply return it to the store where it’s restocked and he can continue shopping.
True biblical womanhood is under attack. This attack began when Satan approached Eve in the Garden of Eden. Whatever is good, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, and whatever is God honoring, the devil will seek to spray his graffiti upon it. Biblical womanhood is a pure and holy thing. When put on display in the life of a Christian lady, her home will have the aroma of godliness and holiness. That type of atmosphere affects her children and benefits her husband. However, we are raising a younger generation to ignore biblical womanhood and to pursue the decadent and immoral lifestyle publicized by Hollywood and the reality television culture. The television screen is often used as a center stage for the devil’s empty talk and perverse lies. Consider the following lies about women that are portrayed by popular mainstream television.
Lie #1 – Reality Show Obviously Means It’s Real
One of the biggest problems with reality shows is that they are heavily scripted. If some popular reality shows were genuine reality, they would likely never make it to your living room. It often requires a staff of writers and publicists to make a reality show work. The false portrayal of a man dating multiple women and “trying out” a few before he settles down with his top pick is less than real and it cheapens marriage, relationships, intimacy, and yes – women. The devil would have us all believe it’s real, but it’s not. It’s really a lie.
Image is a big deal and the pressures to conform to the ideal image is overwhelming to many. One article that recently appeared in the Metro out of the UK stated the following:
The relentless rise of the mobile phone pictures, coupled with a fixation on celebrity culture, creates unrealistic expectations, they say. It has led to one in three plastic surgeons in the US reporting a rise in requests for procedures from ‘patients being more self-aware of looks in social media’. More than half have seen a rise in cosmetic procedures on the under-30s.
When the shallow world of social media selfies and celebrity culture is contributing to cosmetic surgeries among 20 somethings – we know there is a massive problem brewing in our culture.
Lie #2 – Women Must Wear Less to Impress
Let’s be honest. Advancement in screen driven marketing has changed the dress code of society. Modesty has been lost in the wilderness of depravity long ago. June Cleaver has been replaced by the short skirt wearing career woman of American culture. However, more than June Cleaver’s job has been left behind in our television culture. June Cleaver was known to be modest in her dress. Today, not only has the length of dress changed, but in many cases, it has almost disappeared completely. Women are wearing less in order to impress. This can be traced to the pursuit of job advancement, self marketing to available men, and in the case of younger ladies it’s often as simple as popularity points on campus. In many cases, this behavior was learned through the television screen. Not only in movies and sitcoms, but news anchors and marketing advertisements have all contributed to the lack of clothing women are wearing in public.
God expects His daughters to live out the gospel in simple ways – including how they present themselves in dress. It doesn’t matter what the culture says is cool or attractive. What matters is what God thinks. The way women (and men) dress reveals much about their heart. Where do you think styles of dress originate? They appear in magazines and on television screens. We look at it while waiting in the doctor’s office and it appears on the television screen and then we go to the stores and purchase it. We are easily influenced. Dressing with less may impress a depraved mind, but it doesn’t impress God.
Lie #3 – Faithfulness is Folly
We have been hearing doom and gloom statistics for years regarding divorce rates. It seems that the divorce statistics are fairly consistent between the church and unchurched populations. Presently, there is a divorce every 13 seconds in America. That totals over 6,000 failed marriages every day in our nation. As we continue to examine these statistics, we find that 41% of first marriages end in divorce and that number drastically grows to 60% of second marriages and 73% of marriage number three. What is fueling this horrible problem? One of the great catalysts for divorce is the perverse culture that surrounds us. The entertainment world has been dumbing down marriage and denying the sacredness of the marriage bed for many years. Behind this madness is a message. Satan hates Jesus.
Marriage is often compared to Jesus’ relationship to the church. In Ephesians 5:25-28, the apostle Paul writes, “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,  that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word,  so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.  In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.”
One way that Christ loves the church is that He never leaves her! Our culture continues to claim that remaining faithful to one person for life is a crazy idea that should be written off as archaic and unnecessary. However, the gospel is rooted in faithfulness. God instituted covenants with His people and proved Himself to be a covenant keeping God from Old Testament to New Testament. Therefore, as we view marriage and faithfulness to our spouse, we should not allow the culture to redefine the boundaries of such gospel rooted commitments. Marriage matters. Why else would it be under such heavy attack in our present day?
Lie #4 – Cheating is Winning
If the culture of the selfie has taught us anything, it has certainly proven Jeremiah 17:9 – “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?” John Calvin referred to the human heart as an “idol factory.” As the selfie culture continues to expand, it causes us to want to see ourselves in specific places with specific people doing specific things. The human imagination is powerful – for good or evil. In the case of our modern entertainment through the television and movie screens, the human imagination will often seek to place ourselves in the context of the main characters. When young women are engulfed by the decadent shows of American culture, it often causes them to applaud sin and view adultery as an avenue to success. The devil would like to make women believe that cheating is the way to more fun and a truly exciting life. He paints that picture through shows like Desperate Housewives and Jersey Shore where women adorn themselves in garish attire as a lure to men. The continual glamorization of such lewd acts through comic sitcoms and reality shows is one way the devil sprays graffiti upon the gospel.
Proverbs 6:32 says, “He who commits adultery lacks sense; he who does it destroys himself.” We know the commandment that says, “You shall not commit adultery” (Exodus 20:14), but do we really believe that it’s a true line in the sand for our modern culture? Does God really care about cheating in marriage? Do we make too much out of this ancient commandment? The fact is, God’s commandments never grow old and God’s Word is immutable – never changing. Therefore, it’s a serious indictment on our church culture when many women who sit on the pews in the average church are watching shows like The Bachelorette and Desperate Housewives. In doing so, they give credence to such depraved entertainment, applaud sin, laugh at debauchery, and open up their own heart for sinful influence. Cheating is no way to win in marriage.
Lie #5 – Courtship is Crazy
Courtship is the idea that a man pursues a wife and his “dating” her is merely preparation to marry her. Recreational dating in America denies the necessity of marriage, commitment, and often rejects the sacredness of intimacy between a man and his wife. Americanized recreational dating cheapens our view of women as men enter the marketplace for their Friday night companion. The typical American dating routine insists that men “try out” different women in search for the one they are most compatible with. This idea is played out in high definition through shows like The Bachelor. Is courtship crazy?
The fact is, nowhere in the Bible do we see recreational dating. We see marriage emphasized and a true commitment between one man and one woman for life. God places a sacredness upon marriage and demonstrates the need for a man to take leadership seriously as he plans to care for his bride. This picture is played out all through the Old and New Testaments. If courtship is crazy, why are so many 30 something men sitting in their mother’s basement playing video games instead of looking for a job? If courtship is crazy, how many fathers want that type of man to ring the doorbell and ask to take his daughter out on the town?
According to John 8:44, the devil is a liar and the “father of lies.” In our present day culture, the devil will use entertainment outlets to preach his dirty lies. As American girls continue to follow him, he will continue to pervert the gospel with his graffiti. The devil knows the gospel of Jesus Christ is the source of biblical womanhood. It’s time for an army of older women to sit over coffee with their daughters and granddaughters and tell them the truth about Titus 2. It’s time for the older women to warn the younger women about the dangerous traps of the devil.
If the temptations are overwhelming – just turn off the television and don’t allow the magazines into your home. Jesus said it this way in Matthew 5:29, “If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body be thrown into hell.”
Whatever happened to the modest woman of society who didn’t find it necessary to market herself through lewd dress? Does that woman still exist? I pray this elusive woman will be found not only in the sanctuary of our church buildings but in the marketplace of our culture as she illuminates the gospel through modesty as opposed to lurid and sexually explicit clothing. From dress to faithfulness in marriage – our culture needs to see the gospel on display through women. What an opportunity women have to shine for Christ.
The feminist movement in America has caused women great harm and that harm has had a direct and negative impact upon the home. Nancy Leigh DeMoss writes, “In contrast to the wise woman, the foolish woman is not content to be a keeper at home. She is not satisfied with where God has put her. One of the things the feminist movement has done so successfully is to stir up discontent in women with being homemakers and to convince them that other pursuits can increase their sense of self-worth.”1 One great lesson that the church can learn from the feminist movement is that women are important. However, what the feminist movement can learn from the church is that God has made that clear long before the feminist movement was organized. God declared that truth in His Word – the Bible. The feminist movement shot forward in response to the demeaning views of women in society. Through the years, the church has addressed the issues of women in society as well as within the church. However, the roles of women in the church often remain blurred.
Some people are overzealous in their attempt to guard against the feminist movement to the point that women are almost excluded from any roles in the church. Others are considered more liberal in their approach and open up all positions and roles to women – even the office of elder. Although most conservative evangelical churches understand the proper roles for women in the church, one area that continues to remain unclear is the purpose and calling of mothers – especially young mothers. Are mothers needed in the life of the church? Are young mothers profitable to the church? What is God’s design and calling for young mothers within His church? I firmly believe as we examine the Word of God, we see that God has called all of His children to serve in the church – even mothers of young children.
As Paul describes the church as a body with many differing parts that all have purpose and importance, we must see that women are part of that distinctive body (1 Corinthians 12). Not only women, but mothers – even young mothers. It is true that God’s primary design is to care for their families, instruct their children, and help their husband as he leads, provides, and serves within the church. While it is a noble thing to avoid neglect in these areas, it is likewise essential for mothers to avoid neglect in the life of the church. To neglect the family responsibilities is sinful, it is also sinful for young mothers to neglect the church.
While we all have seasons of life that we pass through as we age and mature in the faith, God has a desire for men and women to be used for His glory through His church. We would reject the attitude of a man who would say, “I can’t serve in the life of the church because I’m in a busy season of life in my career development.” Why would we reject this type of attitude? Because when God called us to Himself, He called us to His church. God has saved us through His Son and gifted us for service in and through His church. Therefore, no matter what season of life we are in – God has a calling on our lives that transcends our “seasons.” To neglect His calling is a tragic mistake on our part. In the case with the man who is busy with his career – we would caution him regarding the sin of idolatry and covetousness in his neglect of the church. However, as a man he is indeed called to work and provide for his family. So it becomes clear that balance and a proper priority is necessary. The same thing is true regarding motherhood.
Susan Hunt, in her book, By Design, writes, “When women execute their helper design, they are the heartbeat of the church.”2 Susan is not arguing for young mothers to neglect their families or husbands, but she is making the distinct point that women are needed in the life of the church. I am privileged to serve a church where young mothers and grandmothers alike take responsibilities to serve people. From something as small as a nursery ministry to our annual VBS ministry designed to teach the gospel of Jesus Christ – women of all ages work hard for God’s glory. What I see in our church (that is by far perfect) is women serving in mentoring ministries and evangelism through our PM Sports ministry (and other outlets). Could we do better in many of these areas? Yes! However, what I am greatly encouraged about as pastor is the fact that women (young and old) are taking their spiritual gifts seriously and refusing to neglect the church. If Christ died to redeem His bride, we should make sure that that our lives are focused to serve Him through the church as He has designed. This includes young mothers.
When Adoniram Judson left for Burma, he took his wife along with him. When he served there to evangelize the people, learn the language, and translate the Bible – he had his wife alongside him – until she died. His wife Ann was there in the 108 degree temperature among the threat of many diseases such as cholera and malaria. It was the rugged terrain, temperatures, and disease that cost him his wife and 7 of his 13 children. The same thing can be said about Jim Elliot. When he left for Ecuador, he took his wife with him. The cost was extreme. The cause was the gospel – a worthy cause indeed.
The fact is – ministry is messy and the calling to bear the cross of Christ is a hard road. The texture of the cross of Jesus Christ is not smooth and comfortable. The calling to serve and spend our lives through the church is not an easy task. It requires balance and wisdom. It requires of young mothers to juggle nap times, homeschool schedules (if that is your calling), sports schedules, birthday parties, homework, and the many other responsibilities of the young mother around the house such as dishes, diapers, laundry, cleaning toilets, and the vacuum cleaner. Not that all of these tasks are designated for women, but the point is – women (especially young mothers) must exercise much management skill in their daily lives. In all of the decisions and management of schedules – the priority of assembly and service through the local church must have its proper priority.
In Titus 2:4-5, the Bible explains that the older women of the church are to “train the young women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.” The Greek word is oikourgous, which is translated “working at home” in the ESV. It literally means “workers at home.” Women are to place a high priority upon their home and this is clear from Titus 2 and Proverbs 31. However, women are not to use their home as an escape from the life of the church. Women serving in the church is clearly God’s plan from the very beginning (Acts; Romans 16).
Some areas of service for the local church to engage an army of women would include the following:
Teaching and Mentoring Ministry
Ministry to Orphans
Ministry to Senior Citizens
Ministry to Widows
Ministry to Single Mothers
Audio and Video Ministry
Missions (local and foreign)
Writing Ministry (study material, blogs, books)
Disaster Relief Ministry
What is required of biblical motherhood?
A serious commitment to the nurture and instruction of her children. To neglect this calling for business or other self-centered pursuits is a trap of our culture.
A loving commitment and faithful submission to her husband. The recognition of biblical headship and a willingness to submit is key in marriage.
A biblical submission to pastoral leadership within the church. A wife who refuses to submit to pastoral leadership is highly unlikely to submit to her husband.
A wartime position regarding the lost people of her family and neighborhood. A refusal to evangelize is a refusal to the basic calling of a Christian woman.
A refusal to neglect the bride of Jesus Christ – the church for which He died. To neglect the bride of Christ is to reject Christ.
A joyful desire to fulfill her calling and giftedness within the church during all seasons of life. A refusal to serve through the church demonstrates a rebellious spirit.
A rejection of materialism and the trap of keeping up with the Jones’. A woman who is focused on designer clothing, fancy homes, and extravagant living is unlikely to have a heart for the poor and a desire to surrender large amounts of money to missions.
A passionate pursuit of holiness rather than being swept away with the pleasures and sin of this culture. A mother who is not holy is sure to raise children who are not holy.
The biblical mother must realize that the calling of the mother to make her priority her home is not a calling to abandon the church of Jesus Christ. To raise children above God is a dangerous position. To raise mentoring ministry in the home to a point of excluding yourself from the functionality and life of the church is the result of an “out of balance” view of Christian motherhood. To use your giftedness in a way that is excluded from the church and outside of the vision of the pastoral staff demonstrates a rouge attitude that does not have the fragrance and beauty of biblical motherhood. Submission, dedication, commitment, passion, and hard work characterize the attitude and life of a biblical mother. It is my prayer that God will raise up an army of young mothers that will understand their calling to bear the cross of Jesus Christ in all seasons and work hard for God’s glory. Mothers – the church is for you too!
Nancy Leigh DeMoss writes, “I am praying that God will orchestrate a counter-revolution in our day—a quiet revolution of women who are willing to pattern their lives, not after the world, but after the Word of God. I am convinced that the influence of an army of godly women will be incalculable—in our homes, our churches, and our culture. Will you be one of those women?”3
Pastor Josh Buice
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1. Biblical Womanhood in the Home, Crossway, 2002, 91, 92.